Jim Burns, Ph.D., President of HomeWord is the host of the HomeWord with Jim Burns daily half-hour, daily one-minute, and weekly half-hour radio programs. His passion is communicating to adults and young people practical truths to help them live out their Christian lives. I’m sharing this, knowing that life and family and love do not operate via formulas – we can’t just follow Script A to guarantee Result B – I’m sharing because we are all in this together and we can learn from the experience of others…

There may be overlap and outliers in these decades—for example, more than 10 million millennialsare currently caregivers for a parent or grandparent—but these are among the general milestones and markers for young adults: What are you doing to maintain your [own] emotional, physical, relational, and even spiritual health?" I remember, in the events following my dad's death, watching as my mom did things for herself in each of those categories, perhaps more reflexively than intentionally, but consistently nonetheless. And although I loved on her, I remember thinking that was exactly what I needed from her at that moment - the knowledge that she was taking care of herself, and the example that she set in taking care of herself.This book was written by a white, wealthy Christian boomer for other white, wealthy Christian boomers who do American things like 'paying for college', talking at length about 'living by biblical money management and stewardship principles' and having existential crises when their children do things like 'cohabitation' and 'promiscuity'. It encourages parents to reconnect with their adult children by paying for their wedding, doing grandparenting, listening and 'being fun' so that they can happily put off interrogating any of the common reasons their millennial children are avoiding them (homo/transphobia, supporting Trump, being racist). Also hoping, of course, that you and your husband can use music, meditation, prayer, nature, humor, gratitude, etc to refresh and gladden your spirits: LIFE IS HARD. Y’all all miracles. We people are resilient:

I also agreed with his encouragement to be the fun grandparent to your babies' babies. Leave the parenting to the parents while you create a warm, safe, encouraging space for your grandchildren to enjoy. Tensions show in each family, across generations, dividing parent from child and prospective in-law and every permutation in between. There are many beautiful and touching moments in these events, but weddings are also a powder keg of potential bad feeling. One reviewer called this book a Dr. Phil-like book. Some complained that there was so much scripture; others that there was hardly any. I would've said that there was a scant amount, but that it was there. I'm guessing maybe 6 passages for the entire 9 chapters. I could be wrong. There could have been more. But it wasn't expository in that it wasn't pulling out the meaning of the passages and then applying them. They were just part of the thought-flow. This is just one of many stories………I have a beautiful son. He just turned thirty..so nice young man. He is finishing school to be an electrical engineer. He just started with a fortune five hundred company as an enturn. I feel she drains me and always has to the point I can’t spend time with him. I am exausted.Enabling behavior shields people from experiencing the full impact and consequences of their behavior. My situation is my spouses adult daughter who is 24 going on 25. She most certainly does not pull her weight. In the 2 years that I have been living with him and her and that is including my 2 out of the 3 kids. Honestly I have tried to approach this situation multiple times and in different manners. I think truthfully I am upset with both of them because she kind of had hit me with personal things when it came to her dad and her mom or her dad and her ex step mom. So I felt for her, but what she told me and what I am seeing its like night and day. So she steadily doesn’t pull her weight, she is gone 85-90% of the time and has an animal that she don’t take care of. She doesn’t help supply or replenish what she uses or doesn’t even ask with the exception of laundry. While there are shelves of baby and toddler books, and a growing number on teens, late-stage mothering is a wasteland. That doesn’t mean women aren’t interested in it though. Byford found more than 30 women to interview, and many felt huge relief at being able to voice their opinions. Where do you want to be in 1 year? (The question is NOT “where do you want your adult child to be in 1 year?” and, the answer is NOT, “I want to be a parent who has a successful independent self supporting adult child.”)