I’m an intrapreneur in my company (Kate, you actually helped me realize that during the incubator work you and Mike offered during the 2017 B-School period) who wants to start a side business (thanks to my work with you guys and B-School) so the idea of doing less ignites some fear but if I can actually be more intentional and focused, I’m in! She doesn’t check her phone obsessively or wonder if she should text him or not, even though he didn’t respond to her last text (or her last 10). By using the Web site, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agreed to be bound by the Terms and Conditions.

I’m really glad you’re in for the Experiment – I think you’ll find it familiar if you’ve been making space for grace all of these years already! You do not need to make 100 vision boards, visualize diligently every single day for 20 minutes, or watch your thoughts like a hawk, having a meltdown every time you think something negative because you think that’s broken the spell of attraction. One, consider changing your side of the relationship dance, which is exactly what you just described, right? And then three and I love, this is so practical, if you can, limit the time that you spend with them, right?Simply watching your video brought me some peace – not being told to do more, go more places, or commit to this or that is quite refreshing. What I love about the 80/20 rule and we’ve seen this in our business and we try really hard to always come back to it because it’s true, you can fill up these days and these weeks and these months and these years and I think one of the gifts of getting older is you get some perspective and you look back and you can really start to see, what makes the biggest difference? As she sits there, though, she also emits a signal that tells the sperm that she’s ready and available. But if there’s one thing 2020 has taught me is that you can plan all you want, what will happen will happen.

I'd never felt so out of control before, and, as a result, I was anxious and depressed for a good part of the first year. I sometimes feel guilty, depending on what’s happening in my life and if I’m here in New York or whatever I’m like, I don’t know if I can… Is there anyone around? Kate: For me in my own life, I wrote this book because I struggled so much with hyper productivity and an obsession with getting things done and then I had two children and well, the one kid before I wrote the book but anyway, and I was shocked by the amount of pressure that my identity had wrapped up in being productive and being busy and I began to look at that because… And we’ll talk about this later maybe but… During that pregnancy, I cut my work hours about in half and also during the first year of motherhood, way even less than that and we had a sick baby, I had postpartum insomnia and anxiety. When we ask often, we’ve strengthened the muscle and we get good at it and then it allows us to ask kindly and it is so much easier to think about… I think about in my marriage, when I’m cranky and I’m way past needing help, I am not easy to help and no one wants to help me because I’m awful and if I ask early and often, then it’s really easy to ask kindly where I can be like, hey babe, next week I’ve got this thing, can you get the girls at daycare and whatever, what have you, and it’s like, oh yeah, sure.KATE…I am in tears and thanking our Universe for giving you the articulation, courage, and servitude…to create this video and share with all of us!